Values Based Therapy
Treatment built on who YOU are and what is important to YOU.
knowing your values changes your life.
Therapy is only effective if you believe in it.
Having a foundation of trust in yourself is the key to change.
The reason we spend so much time talking about your values is because it will determine your actions and goals for the rest of your life. Values change over time, sure, but you cannot find peace within yourself and your relationships without knowing what matters to you. Therapy is a place for you to be safe to explore if you actually agree with all the things you’ve accepted about life up until this point. Culture, race, religion, education, politics, gender identity, economic status, all of it gives us messages about how to behave and how to participate in the world. It provides context for how we see the world and how we allow ourselves to act in the world. And you might not believe in all of it, or even get angry about what you see. That’s legitimate. You get to decide what you buy into and what you don’t.
You’re ready to break the rules and make some new ones.
Working on relationships in particular empowers us to get to know ourselves. We can truly find peace and rest when we know what drives us, and when we can shift our actions to reflect our beliefs. Friendships, romantic relationships, family dynamics, they will all change. We will truly learn who is there for us, and stop being afraid of when people aren’t. You may have people in your life right now who are damaging your nervous system and causing you anxiety and stress, and ultimately distrust in yourself that you would be fine without them. It shows up like this:
Do you get stressed when you see a notification from a particular person?
Do you feel guilt around avoiding responding to them, but you just don’t have “the bandwidth” for it right now?
Does hearing their voice grind on you like nails on a chalkboard?
Do you feel calmer in your body when they aren’t around?
Have you ever even given yourself the opportunity to find out if you feel calmer?
In our sessions together, we will…
Explore what your values are.
We will do specific exercises to determine what is important to you. We will gain clarity around how you see the world, and how you see yourself as a part of it. It’s so fun and exciting to see what lights you up and makes you feel passion again. Especially when relationships have been so hard for so long, you will find yourself feeling alive around people who share those values.
Process invalidation of values that you’ve tolerated.
Let’s be real. As a woman, you’re regularly and consistently invalidated at work, at home, in some churches, in the economy. These invalidation moments are almost like death by a thousand cuts. It makes it so easy to believe you don’t deserve respect and dignity and care because it’s so familiar and normalized. Processing why that happens and how to circumvent that disrespect will help you see where you need changes first.
Learn new strategies to implement values in daily life.
There is a gentle strength around knowing who you are and what you want. Your availability to let others be who they are skyrockets when you feel secure in yourself. Understanding how to display that security is a fundamental part of our work.
You’re worth the investment.
I’m here to help with…
Anxiety
Depression
Relationship difficulties
Big life changes
Narcissistic Abuse
Identity development
Self-esteem
Trauma
Therapy with me is…
Judgement and shame free
Based on YOUR wants and needs
Educational
focused on developing your own identity and building self trust.
Therapy with me is not…
forcing you or encouraging you to leave relationships
forcing beliefs on you
Telling you the answers to fix your life
stuffy and boring
My core values
Stewardship/Sustainability
If I’ve been entrusted with a responsibility, I take that seriously.
Wisdom
If I could ever be half as wise as my grandmother, I will be so grateful.
Safety
I do not mess around with safety. Nothing can happen in therapy with out safety.
Respect
You. Deserve. Respect. I’m going to honor that with humility.
authenticity
I cannot fake it anymore. I don’t want you to either.
Beauty
Staying hopeful and optimistic is so much easier when we can see beauty in the world.
Let’s get started.