You’ve tried everything to be happy together, and nothing helps.
You’re just done.
Divorce, Separation, “breaking up”, “conscious uncoupling,” “graduating from the marriage.” It’s all hard, and usually confusing. There’s too much water under the bridge, and it’s just not going to get fixed. You didn’t commit to this person with the intention of divorce. It wasn’t supposed to be like this, and love was supposed to be enough to make this relationship work and stand the test of time. Until, it’s not. When that happens, it’s hard enough to untangle your shared life together, you don’t need the well intentioned (but unhelpful) advice or the weird dynamic it creates with friends. Sometimes, you don’t want to “be the bigger person” and not play nice, and the pressure to be amicable is too much. Not to mention that although you may be okay with this divorce, shame and guilt can come up randomly when thinking through what it means to work so hard at something and not be able to fix it. All of it is part of the package, but that doesn’t make it easy to deal with.
But you’re still feeling…
Resentful that it didn’t couldn’t be fixed.
Disconnected
Worried
Overwhelmed
Therapy helps you stay true to you,
even if it all falls apart.
Anger, bitterness, sadness, grieving, and fear are part of the package of divorce. There’s no getting around that. Research shows losing a partner is one of the most stressful life events adults experience. We do things we regret when we are stressed because we are completely worn out. Therapy helps you to manage and process the stress so you can live with yourself when the dust settles.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Of course. Of course you are. You just tried to save a relationship, that is a LOT of hard work. This is a place for you to just land and rest and take a break from that.
Yes. Totally. It is infuriating to be committed to a person, put all your love and trust in them, and then have to redo your entire life when it falls apart. You are not going to this angry forever. We will navigate resentment, unfair systemic issues, and unrealistic expectations that lead to anger, so you can stay aligned with your values, and handle this the way you want.
Yeah. It is. And I wish I could take that away, but we can't, unfortunately.
And, at the same time, it's sort of like going through child birth. The only person who can have that baby, is the pregnant person. No one can deliver that baby for them. BUT, hopefully, they have a team cheering them on, and holding their hand, and celebrating when the new life is here. Although you have to labor this new life into the world, you're going to have support the whole time.
Imagine a life where…
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
This an ending, but it’s not the ending.
Whether this is your choice or not, your life will continue on.
Take care of yourself now, and build your new life to be every bit as amazing as you deserve.
